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Why are you crying? You’ve got your Prince Charming.

I had the pleasure of attending the World Water Week in Sweden last month and it was a big eyeopener and especially the water cube was amazing. But that is not why I am compelled to write this. I also participated in a workshop on gender and capacity building and I learned a great deal on balanced gender inclusion not only in numbers but also in policy making, implementation and planning.

Then I came across the following article and got me thinking how possible it is when we have all these gender roles. My conclusion: By women being more involved in all thse aspects of life (which is a good thing) they should also understand that it also means more responsibility.

Gender Roles 101W

by ~axi0matic

Keep your fingernails clean, and keep your voice down. Don’t climb the monkey bars when wearing a skirt. Keep your legs together or crossed. No daughter of mine will become a slut.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

No, I will not have a tea party with you. Take your other dolls and use your imagination. Don’t try cooking without mother there to watch you. Use your KidKraft Kitchen, and just make-believe the batter. Dream of palaces and ponies, settle for a kitten and leave him INSIDE the house. It’s ok to play in mother’s high heels, you’ll need to practice. Wear pink and pigtails and for God’s sake, don’t try to cut your own hair. Don’t play with the boys across the street. They’re too rough, you’ll get hurt, you’ll turn into a tomboy or a lesbian. Just play princess and dance to the Spice Girls on your Hello Kitty Karaoke. Don’t slouch, practice good posture. Don’t talk with food in your mouth. Don’t burp. Don’t talk too loud. It’s ok for you to cry, but not too much. No daughter of mine will become a drama queen.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

Go shoe shopping, giggle, gossip, dive into fashion. These are your female rights. Tweeze your brows, wear a trainer bra, talk to mommy about your girl pains. Take dance lessons, be graceful, and learn to eat healthily. No daughter of mine will get fat.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

Learn how to make yourself up, or you’ll never get a man. Learn how to fold laundry, do dishes, and scrub a sink. Without domestic skills you won’t get anywhere. It’s becoming a woman’s world, but that just means you have more responsibility. Accept it with grace. Keep your complaints to yourself. No daughter of mine will become a raging feminist.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

Watch out for men, they will want to steal your innocence. Without your virtue, you are nothing. Don’t believe the “I love you”, it’s only a lie. You’re too young to know what love is. Learn the social laws and abide by them. Get your M-R-S degree before 25. If you don’t, you’re a failure. No daughter of mine will become an old maid.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

Learn from your mother. Ask her questions. Keep your anger to yourself. Don’t nag your husband. No daughter of mine will become a shrew.

“That’s not very lady-like.”

Why are you crying? You’ve got your Prince Charming.



Eco-entrepreneur and a Project Manager in Auckland, New Zealand.

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